Because sometimes I feel like that's all people see me as.
A little background on this.
I have recently gotten into a big argument with a Facebook friend. It was about feminism. More especifically, gay/straight pride. I won't get into particulars, but basically my line of argument was that there's nothing to be proud ABOUT, or rather, shouldn't you have like a dozen things to be proud of before your sexuality even factors into it?
More recently, I posted this picture.
http://hugelol.com/lol/215388Which was meant to be, at best, sarcastic.
Now here's the thing: I see chivalry as a way of life. A way of life that includes being kind to men AND women alike. Which includes being nice without wanting reward. Which means being a good person, generally, not out of duty, but because one believes it's the right thing to do.
Yet like so many things before it, chivalry has been branded DAH EBULZ by such things as the feminist movement. The mere
mention of it as a good thing is apparently grounds for becoming a social pariah. Anything that remotely resembles an alternative to feminist discourse, or at least in the way it's presented, is sexist and therefore evil.
Here's a line from that Facebook friend I mentioned:
"I'm not obligated to tolerate you or anybody I don't want to."
The corollary to that thought being that
so is nobody else. Nobody has the
obligation of tolerating anybody else. It's meant to be the most basic of common courtesy: as long as what you do doesn't interfere with me in any negative, harassing or annoying fashion, then I have no business interfering with you. Provided, of course, that said interference is not meant to prevent actual harm to you (like by keeping you from shooting yourself or getting run over by a car. And even then one is not
obligated to interfere).
I believe that there's no such thing as absolutely evil thought. Similarly, not EVERYTHING that's awful has no good fruit: the same technology that gave us the atom bomb has given us nuclear energy, which while not by any means the cleanest or safest source of energy, it's certainly the only alternative for certain countries that can't exploit naturally occurring phenomena for the same purpose. Similarly, the fact that chivalry arguably arose from a time when sexism was rampant does not make it the spawn of the Devil assfucking Baby Cthulhu.
Everyone seems to DEMAND respect for who they are, while at the same time condemning and belittling everyone that is NOT them for the very same reason - in other words, acting like the EXACT KIND OF BIGOTS THEY RISE AGAINST. I can't believe I'm the only one who thinks this is the case.
I'm sick and tired of being seen as some kind of dumping ground for everyone's social indignation because I don't belong to a "minority". Because I'm "wrong". Because I'm an "asshole", or "the guy who always has to be right".
It's like high school all over again.