I've been casually watching this forum for a long time and I've got to say you guys are probably the most supportive bunch I've encountered on the Internet so far.
So, here it goes: I'm not a proper atheist . I neither acknowledge nor deny the existence of god (or whatever other being people might choose to worship). Rather I don't worry much about it (until anyone can present any reliable evidence in either direction at least). What I have an issue with is church (I'm officially an orthodox christian but I have the same opinion in regards to most churches that I know enough about). I consider the church little more than a tool of manipulation and power. This goes doubly so in my country (Romania), where they could erase 'church' and replace with 'thieves guild' and it would be 100% correct. Maybe 1 out of 100 priests is in it out of genuine beliefs, the other 99 are in it for the money.
Now, most of my family including fiancee (everyone apart from my father, who shares part of my ideas in a more passive way: he believes in god but doesn't care much for priests&church) are semi-regular church goers and what passes off as 'good Christians'. We've talked about it in the past and we've agreed to disagree without any major issue. They think I'm wrong, I think they're wrong, but we respect each other's right to have their own opinion.
Also, I have no problem going to the church on occasions like weddings, funerals etc. I view it as some sort of social event, and I don't give a rat's ass about the religious significance of what's going on in there.
Thing is I'm getting married next year. Now I've got no issues with the wedding ceremony; I view it as a social event, a tradition and something nice to watch photos/videos of after some years. My issue is that apparently it's mandatory to go to a confession before the wedding. So I'm supposed to walk up to a priest (whom I despise) in private, and pretend I'm buying all his bullshit, confess my 'sins' (most of which I don't consider wrong in any way) and look like I repent for them (which I don't really).
The easiest way would be to just do it, which is probably what I'd end up doing because I don't really have a choice. My fiancee is the kind of girl I've been wanting all my life, and I really want to have a family with her. Thing is, part of me considers people who genuinely buy into church doctrines as inferior beings, and there's something inside me that makes me cringe at the very thought of pretending to be one of those guys.