The entry for spider eater says "Advancement: 5–12 HD (Huge)". I would talk to the DM about how the thing can earn XP, and go from there, or maybe use the animal companion/special mount chart to advance it's HD as you hit the appropriate level; it wouldn't get any of the special abilities of animal companion/special mount, but it would gain better BAB and saving throws based on increased HD.
I believe there's also a template for war animals (war trained? warbeast?). See if you can add that template.
Since it's not an animal, it doesn't qualify for the Awaken spell.
And of course, there's always magic items