Xanzibard is right: Since YOU are attacking, YOU have to start to shake things up. I can make some specifics, a battle map most importantly, just so you know where to pounce.
Basically I want to know how you approach - do you use stealth, invisibility, astral space? Or do you just charge? And from what distance do you begin acting openly hostile? This isn't a game where any monster you see will immediately attack you, which means that basically sometimes you can decided for yourself how hostile you want to look. You also won't know exactly how everyone will react.